I always start by saying that there is no Broken Relationship that cannot be fixed. If both parties are willing, there is always a solution. Wherever there is a will, there will always be a way!
In this article, I am going to focus on Fixing a Broken Relationship from the Communication point of view. Experts in Relationship and Marriages, all agree that Communication is one of The Most Important Keys to Solving most of the Problems in Relationships and Marriages.
First of all, there should be No Barrier to Communication between the two people in order for Effective Communication to take place. By this I mean that both partners should feel free to communicate anything. In other words, both partners should be very comfortable with each other. Finding Comfort is the First Step to begin a good conversation.
If you are very comfortable in talking to your partner, then we are on The Right Track. We move on to The Next Step. Getting a comfortable and relaxing environment. This means choosing the Best Time for the Communication to take place. Both partners should be in good moods at this time. Maybe plan a vacation prior to the meeting to talk. Rekindle The Love a little and remind yourselves how old times used to be and Your Future Goals. This is important because the First Approach to Communication is Empathy. I use the EPIC approach to communication and the E stands for empathy. Once feelings are rekindled and there is a bit of positive emotions going through both of you, you are on the Right Track to Solving Your Problem.
Choose a conducive place to have the conversation. Go outside where there is some breeze and good ambience. Nature tends to trigger good vibes and populate the mind to think good things and Listen Effectively. In other words, do not initiate the conversation in the house or any where where bad memories may be triggered.
Allow the angrier partner to talk first. At this point, embrace empathy. Put yourself in your partner’s shoes and understand where they are coming from. Try as much as possible not to disregard anything he or she says during this time. Try not to interrupt and listen effectively, if possible, take notes. This shows your partner that you are very willing to embrace him or her and see how you can both Find Solution To The Problem. This also creates an insight that you are serious about mending the relationship and in the future should you face another problem, you are very much willing to listen and Solve The Problem.
Define the Purpose Of the Communication. Remember this is a Two Way Conversation. You should consider both your needs as well as your partners. You also have things you have to say and the purpose why you really have to lay them down. Purpose is a very Important Step as it helps drive the conversation by having the conclusion in the mind. This is the place where you will ask the partner what he or she really wants for the relationship. Is he or she seeing a future between the two of you? If yes, then make a sigh of relief because this is what you also want right?
The Next Step from here is Insight. This is where you articulate your ideas in a clear and respectful way but make sure that the ideas are leading to solving the problem, understanding where your partner is coming from and showing him or her that your love is still intact and has not been moved. This is the point to make him or her understand that Love Is a Journey and this is only a bump on the road. You will both reach your final destination if you work together.
Have the Conversation where both of you are saying things about the beautiful future of the two of you. This is just like setting goals and seeing that you will push through. When this last stage is reached and the conversation is heading towards this direction, you are now on the road to Fixing your Broken Relationship.
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